This girl

[sema]

I met this girl. This girl she met me. She is twentythree but looks like seventeen. She is so sweet. So wonderful. Like a poem, a flower.

I want her; she wants me.

Problem:

She is so sweet I just want to look at her. I want to hug her. I want to stroke her sweet hair. I want to caress her red and lovely cheeks.

When I think about having sex, making love with her, I feel sick about myself. She is so sweet, I dont want to taint her. I dont want to take here off her pedestal...

[Cinnabar]

lol dude, take it easy on the alcohol.

Get plastered but not that plastered.

[Drekor]

lol dude, take it easy on the alcohol.

Get plastered but not that plastered.

I think he needs more, he's obviously not thinking properly.

[Jerrald]

obviously

[Dong]

I once felt that way about a girl.

But I settled for Roxie.

[Mutt]

ouch... I can feel the love

[Cinnabar]

I once felt that way about a girl.

But I settled for Roxie.

I see the couch in your near future.

Well, time for me to take what i've learned from Semaros and put it to use.

[Infuriare]

I feel bad for the lap dance that I just got...

[Jaus]

Lawl Dong, why should you feel bad Infur? Its a natural thing.

[Kydorias]

When I think about having sex, making love with her, I feel sick about myself. She is so sweet, I dont want to taint her. I dont want to take here off her pedestal...

Take it slow then. Treat her to dinner & a movie then take her home and if its looking good give her a nice goodbye smooch. Then tell her you look forward to taking her out on another date sometime, wave goodbye and drive off into the sunset.

Wait two days and call her up and ask if you can take her out again. After a few dates maybe she'll invite you in for a drink or something.

Or if her place isn't good (like she still lives with her parents or some roommates) then stock your (immaculately clean!) place with a nice wine or champagne and some high-class munchies (gourmet crackers with caviar is good - but careful, caviar is an acquired taste - have some alternatives) and ask if she'd like to come over.

Once you're both at your place, bring out the drinks & munchies, put on some mellow tunes, and focus your conversation on her. Ask about her and be interested in what she tells you. If the conversation switches over to yourself, gently guide it back to the subject of her.

But most importantly, patience grasshopper :)

[Gnioss]

I think semaros has ingested so much alchohol that he has broken the BOOZE EVENT HORIZON. He's so drunk, he's actually become overly sober. Fortunately semaros, there is a cure. You must have more alchohol. It's the only way!

[Diraker]

omg it's not a contest to see how quick you can get into her pants

enjoy her company, see what happens

sober up!

[Ven]

/agree with diraker

[Armind]

lol dude, take it easy on the alcohol.

Get plastered but not that plastered.

lol that's pretty f'n drunk.

[Jaus]

Take Kydorias' advice, since he seems like the only ladies man on the topic.

[Jerrald]

kyd is the MAN

[Kydorias]

Actually the ladies in the guild should critique my advice and offer some of their own since I barely know wtf I'm talking about.

[sema]

Thanks for the advice.

At the moment I am completely paralyzed, I don´t know what to do. Her affection for me came as a complete surprise. I have her phone-number, but I dont know what to tell her. It feels like I'm a little kid again.

I dont want to scare her away by being too eager and I dont want to risk losing her by being too passive.

This is the first girl in several years that I think I´m falling in love with.

[Cinnabar]

Just hit it head on and ask her if you can swab the deck. Be sure to tell her that you're a pirate, though, or she might think you are sort of weird.

[sema]

Just hit it head on and ask her if you can swab the deck. Be sure to tell her that you're a pirate, though, or she might think you are sort of weird.

That would fall under the "Too Eager" category...

[Mutt]

dont tell her about us for at least 6 months.

[Mez]

Take it slow then. Treat her to dinner & a movie then take her home and if its looking good give her a nice goodbye smooch. Then tell her you look forward to taking her out on another date sometime, wave goodbye and drive off into the sunset.

Wait two days and call her up and ask if you can take her out again. After a few dates maybe she'll invite you in for a drink or something.

Or if her place isn't good (like she still lives with her parents or some roommates) then stock your (immaculately clean!) place with a nice wine or champagne and some high-class munchies (gourmet crackers with caviar is good - but careful, caviar is an acquired taste - have some alternatives) and ask if she'd like to come over.

Once you're both at your place, bring out the drinks & munchies, put on some mellow tunes, and focus your conversation on her. Ask about her and be interested in what she tells you. If the conversation switches over to yourself, gently guide it back to the subject of her.

But most importantly, patience grasshopper :)

OK I'll give ya some womanly input, although remember this is just mine and not a representative by any means of the common girl.

For a first date I would never do dinner and a movie. Its so...average...and a movie is the worst thing to do with someone that you want to get to know. There is no interaction, just the two of you staring at a big screen for a couple of hours. I like it when guys have something more creative planned, like ice skating, golfing, going to a music show, bowling, playing pool, picnic in the dark, hiking, taking a ferry ride, going to a carnival-fair, etc etc....

Also, don't wait "two days" to call her and tell her that you had a great time. I think those timelines are BS...call her the next day and say "I had the best time last night, you are wonderful and I would love to take you out again." You can say that without sounding too eager.

Its good to make sure that when you have a conversation that its equal--if you want to find out about her and be interested in what she says, she will hopefully want the same. Its OK to talk about yourself as long as there is a balance. Be real, be honest, be goofy, say what you feel...don't try and be something you aren't. Give her a kiss, make out, thats fine...but DON'T try and get in her pants right away. Girls love a guy thats happy (or at least willing) to wait.

[Armind]

well shit mez, I heard Cinn puts out on the first date.

[Cinnabar]

Only for the hairy ones.

[Mutt]

Like Arn's mom then

[Aradorn]

Heh, I still dont understand why some guys find girls to be this complicated problem that they try their hardest to figure out but never truely understand.

Girls love simple things, flowers, perfume, spontaneous cards that say sweet things that make them smile, notes left at random places in their house that they can find that will remind them you care, just about anything that will put a smile on their face is a plus with a woman.

Im not going to comment on the sex deal, considering me and my girlfriend have been dating for over 4 years and have never done it =p...

Ladies that age love to feel special and wanted from what Ive found.

With conversations, there has to be a balance. If you talk too much about yourself then you come off as selfish and cocky. If you ask her too many questions she will get the feeling you are not very interesting and have nothing to share with her. Find common interests taht you can share and talk about.

Id say you should just let the conversation flow and let it take you were it takes you. If you try too hard to push the conversation in directions you wont get anywhere.

In the end you should always try and make her smile and feel like you are worth spending time with. If she feels that way then you will both have a good time cause she wont have any probs going back out with you...


but most girls love guys to be called spontaneously and be told that they were on your mind. Just try not too sound too obsessive.

[Cinnabar]

Aradorn, you are such a ladies man. :smile_ok:

BTW...forget your morals and dump that waiting for marriage crap out.

[Aradorn]

lol =P

[sema]

Heh' the sex isn't the problem. I wrote about that to describe how wonderful this girl and to try to tell you that she isn't a simple wench I'd just fool around with.

[Elora]

Ya know, guys... we really aren't that complicated. If you're thinking about us, let us know. If you like spending time with us, let us know.

Sema, you've gotten a lot of good advice, but the best I can offer is... be yourself. Sounds lame, but in the end, that's what's going to win out.

[Sinis]

tell her you "desperately wanna make love to a school boy"

[Miach]

dont tell her about us for at least 6 months.

Best..advice...ever.

Unless of course shes a gamer...;)

[Armind]

"ya hey, Ive got these online gaming friends, one guy's name is Cinnabar, no, yes, its a he, not a she. then there's people like koltas who is this big fan of rogues, he's a ranger or an assassin usually, and there's bob harrisson, but his names not bob, its his friend's dad's name, and this guy bob's always smoking weed, downing bottles of vicotin and making incoherent posts, and we have this captain, he's like the captain of our ship, no, because we're pirates thats why hes the captain, his name's Arnie, yes Captain Arnie. He runs the 'ship' as we call it, and his first mate is Dong, no, not schlong, Dong, and his girlfriend is Roxie, but thats not her name, its her imaginary name. well, we run around and talk like pirates...no, im not in middle school, yes, im really in college, anyway, we talk like pirates and steal people's booty."

[Dong]

Get her in Vent. We'll take care of it.

[Ven]

you forgot about the lotion

[GuilT]

Armind, that was awesome.

[sema]

Män är från Mars; och kvinnor är från vettet...

[Ternach]

Hahhaha, to translate what Sema said

"Men are from mars and woman are out of their mind" it does sound better on swedish..but still

[Scintelle]

Ven is correct. THERE MUST BE LOTION!

[Sinis]

my language skills is the sux, but i think he said he's in love wid a man from mars?

[sema]

I have it all figured out now. It's a big conspiracy, and all the women and girls are in on it. I bet you that somewhere on the web there is a huge forum where they all make evil plans.

They operate in cells, so that if one of them are caught they wont bring the whole network down. The take action in groups, carrying out their malicious plans to destroy and crush us, the men...

[Cinnabar]

Semaros, just print this out and give it to her:


http://www.mabus.serverseed.com/img/pub/valentine.gif

[sema]

Thank you Daughter, but I don't think thats what im looking for...

http://www.yad.se/pics/suicide.jpg

[Drekor]

LOL

[Jaus]

Nice one Cinn.

[Mez]

I have it all figured out now. It's a big conspiracy, and all the women and girls are in on it. I bet you that somewhere on the web there is a huge forum where they all make evil plans.

They operate in cells, so that if one of them are caught they wont bring the whole network down. The take action in groups, carrying out their malicious plans to destroy and crush us, the men...

You figured it out, and have uncovered the evil plot yet you still want one! Silly men. Actually there are a few of us out there that have refused to buy into the scheme but we are REALLY hard to find. Good luck on your search Sema. ;)

[sema]

You figured it out, and have uncovered the evil plot yet you still want one!

I've initiated a re-evaluation process, the results should be in soon.

[Kydorias]

OK I'll give ya some womanly input....

For a first date I would never do dinner and a movie. Its so...average...

Also, don't wait "two days" to call her and tell her that you had a great time. I think those timelines are BS...

Ack! I got dumped by Mez on our first virtual date!

[Armind]

lol not going to touch this one

[Mutt]

But Numb, can you forgive me?

[Miach]

Since my pole is only 9 feet long...not touching this thread.;)

[sema]

Hhehe this wanst about sex or religion in the first place. Sex isnt important for me, I can get it when ever I want. Feelings and love are important.

I dont like religion, but I respect everyones choice to be religions, both my parents are muslims of some kind.

The thing about this girl is that I dont feel a carnal attraction to her primarly, the attraction I experience one for her personality.

The problem and my grief comes from that I after that night got to hear that she is getting together with her ex again. I felt a bit fooled and betrayed. I felt disdain.

Tonight I saw the guy and he looked like a nerd. I wanted to beat his face in. He is a complete twat. I hate him.

There was good thing though; another friend of mine had spoken with her and she had claimed that she was "only" dating the ex.

It is not that I dont know what to do on dates or what to tell girls, its just that there are alot of unfavorable circumstanses; I dont know her all that well, shes a part of the "gang", there is this thing with the ex.

I really hope that she was implying something more after our night at the disco.

[Ven]

serenade her with some Hotel California and you are in like flynn

[Elora]

Don't worry about the ex. He's an ex for a reason, and quite likely will remain that way. And skip the Hotel California. :)

Get to know her... get to be her friend. Let the rest fall into place.